On the day I moved into Residential Colleges, I was greeted by a small table of passionate Resident Student Club (RSC) members who were keen to show me the ropes of college life. Some of these skills included but are definitely not limited to:
Something the RSC members didn’t tell me about was how to deal with the complex minefield that can be living with other people.
When you share so much space and live in such close quarters with people, it will become really clear, very quickly, that when people from all walks of life with different backgrounds and habits come to live at college, sometimes they don’t mix. It’s a fact of life that not everyone you meet you’ll like; they might not like you either. And that’s okay!
When living in close quarters with new people, tensions can arise from the smallest things…especially when exam stress comes into the mix! If a conflict does arise, how do you deal with it? Here are my 5 tips to deal with conflict when you live on college:
This is scary I know! But if someone is really bothering you with something they are doing, talk to them. This is by far the best way of resolving a small matter that is between you and them. If they’re talking too loud at random times during the night, just let them know. They might not even be aware their behaviour is having an impact on you, so once they know, they’re in a much better position to change their ways and it’s tons better than staying grumpy at them.
Residential Advisors are there to help you navigate your way through any challenges, so reach out to them!
That wacky acronym stands for College Wellness Educator. The CWE is there for you to vent your problems, big or small, and can also help you find solutions to conflicts you may come across on college.
They will be able to lend a sympathetic ear and may even be able to give you some great advice from an outsider’s perspective.
I know that sounds a little crazy. But try to think about the situation from an outsider’s position. Ask yourself, has the problem been blown up in your head? Sometimes, if the issue is small enough, the best move to take is just to let it go. This is a great skill to develop and it goes a long way.
These five strategies will help you increase you conflict resolution and interpersonal skills and, self-awareness, which will be useful in all areas of your life. Combating conflict is especially important when living on-campus, because you spend every day with these people, and more often than not, they turn out to be the mates you have with you for years to come.
Find out from Ashleigh why friends you make on college are friends for life.