Tom: FOMO: The struggle is real
Does the idea of missing out on even the smallest thing keep you up at night? Does a clash of plans send you into hysterics? Do you expect to be invited to everything and lose it when you find out you weren’t?
Nobody likes being left out or forgotten, but if you can relate to the above, there’s a good chance you suffer from FOMO: a fear of missing out.
FOMO is real and it can strike anywhere, at any time because let’s be honest: no matter how much you want to be, you can’t be everywhere at once!
If you’ve ever tried to fight FOMO, you can probably relate to these 9 stages:
It all starts with a seemingly innocent question:
“Hey, we’re heading out to that festival/networking event/Friday night drinks. Want to join us?”
Stage 1: Indifference
“Nah, I might just stay in today.”
Stage 2: Second guessing
It might have actually been pretty cool… oh well.
Stage 3: Popular opinion
Oh wow, everyone is going for once…
Stage 4: Stiff upper lip
Doesn’t matter, I made my decision and I’m going to stick with it.
Stage 5: Realisation
Wait. There’s free stuff? Are you kidding?!
Stage 6: Reverse FOMO
I’ll just put up a Tweet and make them feel like they’re the ones missing out!
“Having the best day ever! #somuchfun”
Stage 7: Loneliness beckons
I am literally the only person not there.
Stage 8: Increasing panic
What if they cut me out of the friend group because I didn’t go? What if this is the event talked about for years to come?
Stage 9: Sense of impending doom
This is the worst decision of my life…
See, the bitter truth about suffering from FOMO is that even when you aren’t somewhere physically, it’s hard to detach yourself emotionally.
The solution? Well, there really isn’t one. The best thing to do is make sure you have a reason every time you say no to something.
In reality, you can’t be everywhere at once and plans will clash from time to time. But don’t make things worse for yourself by being lazy and making excuses to get out of something, and risk the torment of regret you know you’ll feel later.
At USQ, there are heaps of events and activities you can get involved in, from weekly on-campus common hours to mentoring programs, as well as the many USQ clubs and societies (including options for online students). If FOMO isn’t enough to convince you to get out there, maybe Tracey’s advice for making the most of your time at uni will provide the motivation you need.